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People Pleaser-The Battle Is Real

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about living intentionally.  In that post, I talked about my what, how and why of intentional living.

For me, the reason, purpose, and drive for intentional living is to glorify God by embracing the unique person He created me to be.

It has taken 38 years for me to come to this place and it is still a daily choice.


I am a people pleaser and try to make everyone happy.

But I can only have one master.

God or man.

I choose God, and so this is the journey I take, one step at a time.

I believe our utmost purpose is to honor God with the life we are given.

It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for.

Ephesians 1:11, MSG

Resting in this verse, I know that I can grow authentically while allowing God to guide to live each day unapologetically me.  Living in this truth empowers me to live each new day fully glorifying the creator of the universe. Living each day this way has allowed me to:

1. Develop Confidence and Self-Respect

I acknowledge that I own the decisions I have made in the past but also own the choices I make today and going forward. I can now enter each new day knowing that with God I can accomplish things I never thought possible. I am confident that my future holds good things for me and I when I look in the mirror, I know I am aiming to become the woman God intended for me to be.

2.  Focus and Direction

Instead of fighting my energizer bunny way of life, I have found a way to use my “busy body” tendencies to my benefit and schedule my day in ways that harness energy and make my day more productive.

3.  Concentrate on God’s Plans for Me and Not Everyone Else’s

The key for me is to start my day in quiet meditation and prayer to line my day up with the will of Christ.  This doesn’t happen every day, but the days that it doesn’t, I pay the price.  I have found that when I make time to spend at the feet of Christ, the time is redeemed and multiplied.

Early in life I found that I was more accepted when I morphed into the person others wanted me to be.  In high school, I would proudly proclaim that I was a chameleon and could blend into any crowd or situation.

But when you put salt in your mouth, does it taste like pepper or cinnamon.

Nope, it tastes like salt.

I had been deceived into thinking the goal was to be accepted and blend in.

As I grew in the Word I realized that our purpose wasn’t to blend in but to stand out.  To enhance the life that happens around us with the unique gifts God has placed within us.

It can be a struggle for me to not shrink back into my chameleon ways and just be who people want me to be.

Today, I choose to be the slightly nerdy, weird and quiet, energetic woman God created me to be.  I want to see what she can do.

Whom she can be.

I want to see how he uses this hot mess of a person to season the world around me.

What about you?

What weighs more heavily in your life?  The opinion of others or the opinion of the one who created you?

People who exercise their embryoninc freedom day after day will, little by little, expand that freedom.  People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally “being lived.”  They are acting out the scripts written by parents, associates, and society.

-Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


Until next time…

Be blessed 🙂

I believe our utmost purpose is to honor God with the life we are given. It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Ephesians 1:11, MSG #Purpose #Live Click To Tweet


What IF we LIVE Intentionally?

Recently I was talking to my 15-year-old daughter about how much she has experienced and grown in her first semester as a high-school freshman. This weekend she performed with her marching band on the football field of Arizona State University and they placed second. I told her as an ASU alumni, I had never been to the stadium let alone on the field. It was an opportunity to encourage my once shy daughter. A chance to acknowledge her choice to step out of her comfort zone and the growth she had attained.

As a young girl, I was constantly bombarded by fear.

Fear kept me from LIVING life.  Experiencing what life had to offer me at that time.

A few years ago I had a near death experience ( a story for another day) that caused me to LIVE my life differently.

I want to LIVE courageously and intentionally for God.

What if…

  • We live intentionally?
  • We were secure in our own unique personality?
  • We were content to serve and fulfill our God-given purpose and calling.

Would we…

  • No longer feel the burn of envy for someone else’s achievements?
  • Change the lives of those we are blessed to encounter?
  • Finally, be free to LIVE fully present, empowered to walk out all we are created for?

Each of us is created for a uniquely designed purpose.
The desire that burns within us in not coincidence.
It is a call to step out and make our DREAM a REALITY.


In walks fear.

  • What will others think if I truly go all out?
  • Am I being selfish if I passionately nurture and grow the gifts and talents within me?
  • Can I use the experiences from my past, my accomplishments and failures, to help me learn how to live more intentionally today?
  • How do I know this burning desire is actually Gods’ voice.

When I contemplate these questions and thoughts, my desire it to live intentionally every day.  I am reminded of

2 Thessalonians 1:11 MSG

We pray for you all the time. Pray that our God will make you fit for what he’s called you to be, pray that he’ll fill your good ideas and acts of faith with his own energy so that it all amounts to something.


This is my prayer for you and I. That all we do would be blessed and glorify our Creator. That we will be BOLD in walking out the plan for our lives.

What is the dream that is kindling within your heart. What is holding you back from stepping out and fulfilling your dream, your purpose?