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First Love,Teens and Boys

Can I just tell you how much I love this young woman.  She is just the bomb!!!


LOVE IT!!!!!

I have a 15-year-old freshman who is entering  a world of “new”.  If you have read some of my posts from past years or follow on Facebook or Instagram, you know that I love morning drop of time with my older girls.  It is when we have some of our most candid unguarded conversations.

Lately, we have had several conversations about hook-ups and dating. Today I shared with them a time in my life that I hold dear to this day.  It was during my senior year; I was active in my youth choir, church and single.

I remember attending church one Sunday and the sermon being about Christ as our first love.  The pastor spoke directly to the young people and said, “this is the time for you to honor Christ as your would a spouse.  Spend time with him, get to know him in a personal and intimate way.  When the time for marriage comes you will know how to love because your first love taught you.”

Oh, how that message spoke to me.  After that message, I would get my favorite praise and worship music, light some candles and just be, in the presence of my first love.  It was wonderful, and I was full.  There was no need or desire to have a boyfriend.  I was captivated by the lover of my soul.

I shared this with my 15 and 12-year-old today and told them it was in those years that the Lord taught me how to love their dad.  I also told them my story because I want them to understand the having a boyfriend just to be able to say you have a boyfriend is pointless.  Unless they feel they are ready to be married (which they both adamantly said they were not :)) then there is no need for a boyfriend.  As a youth, a had a good share of guy friends but that is what it was– friends.

Looking back on that story is so sweet and refreshing.

The other thing I am grateful for is a role model like Jamie Grace.  Her music is beautiful, and it speaks to my heart but also the hearts of my girls.  Her love of Christ is beautiful and contagious.


7 Great Ways To Use Coconut Oil

I recently posted about my current top 10 Costco finds. One of the most commented on items was the Coconut oil. We use it for just about everything in our home. Here are 7 ways we love using Coconut oil.

1. Natural Vapor Rub 

Anytime we have a cold in the house I whip up a batch of homemade vapor rub. It is perfect for rubbing on the chest to help with congestion or I rub on the bottom of our feet and then put on socks.

Homemade Vapor Rub

1/2 cup coconut oil

2 drops peppermint oil

2 drops eucalyptus oil

4 drop OnGuard

Mix and keep in fridge until needed.

2.  Face wash

I have always had a problem with acne and sensitive skin. The only two things that have worked for me is “oil washing” with coconut oil and black soap. During the winter, I primarily use my coconut oil wash. I like to use a 2:1 ratio of coconut oil and baking soda. It is a perfect moisturizer and exfoliator all wrapped in one wash.

Homemade Coconut Face Wash

1 cup coconut oil

1/2 cup baking soda

2 drops melaleuca essential oil

2 drops lavender essential oil.

Mix and keep in a resealable container.

3.  Hair conditioner

We like to use coconut oil as a pre-poo conditioner/hot oil treatment. We simply section hair and slather hair from root to tip. Place hair in a shower cap for 30 minutes and then proceed with washing routine. For a deeper treatment, you can sit under a hair dryer.

4.  Toothpaste

Coconut oil is a natural anti-bacterial and has shown to be an effect tool to prevent gum disease. ****This also works well as a face exfoliating**** 🙂 

Simple Coconut Toothpaste

1/2 cup coconut oil

1/2 cup baking soda

1 tbsp bentonite clay

2 drops peppermint

2 drops melaleuca

2 drops clove

Mix and store in a condiment jar that is squeezable.

5.  Muscle soothing rub

As an active family, we usually have someone that is experiencing some muscle pain. We have a container muscle rub that I refill regularly.

Muscle Rub

1/2 cup coconut oil

5 drops Deep Blue essential oil or 2 drops peppermint & 2 drops melaleuca

1 teaspoon cayenne pepper

Mix all ingredients and use for any muscle or joint pain.

6.  Eczema Relief

Three of my four daughters battled with eczema. This run eased the pain and dryness well. One of them had to take the coconut oil internally as well to rectify the issue.

Eczema cream

1/2 cup coconut oil

10 drops lavender essential oil

Mix and keep in fridge till needed.

7.  Non-Dairy Coffee Cream

I enjoy starting my day with a cup of coffee and I often start it with a cup blended with coconut oil, honey, and cinnamon.  The coconut oil gives the coffee a similar mouth feel as cream but offers a multitude of health benefits. The key is blending the coffee, honey, cinnamon and coconut oil in a blender to get a good mixture.

Cucumber Date Salad

I enjoy eating cucumbers. I love the refreshing crunch every time I bite into one. They have become one of my favorite snacks. I also like Medjool dates.  I could just eat them with nuts and a glass of San Pelligrino. Perfection.  This salad is a combination of all the above because I served it with a glass of San Pelligrino and a slice of lemon. 😉


2 English cucumbers

1 red bell pepper diced

1/2 onion diced

4 Medjool dates diced

2 tablespoon mustard

1 tsp pepper

1/4 tsp salt

Juice 1/2 lemon

1 tbsp olive oil

Slice cucumbers and then cut into fours.

Add bell pepper, onion and dates. Toss together till mixed.

Whisk together vinaigrette ingredient and mix into the salad.

Serve immediately or place in airtight container and enjoy the next day.


Cucumber Date Salad
Recipe type: Salad
A quick and easy Cucumber Salad with a touch of sweetness.
  • 2 English cucumbers
  • 1 red bell pepper diced
  • ½ onion diced
  • 4 Medjool dates diced
  • Vinaigrette
  • 2 tablespoon mustard
  • 1 tsp pepper
  • ¼ tsp salt
  • Juice ½ lemon
  1. tbsp olive oil
  2. Slice cucumbers and then cut into fours.
  3. Add bell pepper and onions. Toss together till mixed.
  4. Whisk together vinaigrette ingredient and mix into the salad.
  5. Add diced dates.
  6. Serve immediately
  7. If not serving immediately. Store salad in an airtight container. Add dates when ready to serve.

Why You Should Not Eliminate Carbs Completely From Your Diet

Food is an effective way for you to harness your health and take control of you mood, energy levels, and mental clarity.

On average, we make more than 200 food choices every day. Many of these occur in our mind.

Each choice is a step closer to better health and living. Food choices effect:

  • All day energy levels
  • May help reduce your risk for certain diseases
  • May help you live longer

The best part is this does not require a complete makeover of your pantry. The best way to achieve permanent change is small baby steps.

Choose Carbs Wisely

Carbs serve as fuel when changed into glucose (blood sugar)

Feeds cells and organs, most importantly your brain.
A good goal is to get half total calories from carbohydrates.

Find Carbs In:


Avoid these Carbs:

Corn syrup

These have no nutritional value. They only offer empty calories.

The best way to know if the carb is worth eating… Is it rich in fiber?

Fiber is the part of the plant that can not be digested.

Fiber offers many benefits for your body.

  • Helps you feel full longer
  • May prevent weight gain
  • Aids digestive health
  • May help reduce the risk of developing diabetes and heart disease.

Excellent sources of Whole Carbs

  • Fruits
  • Vegetables
  • Legumes, beans, and peas
  • Whole Grains

Daily Goal for Carbs is 20-35 grams from whole foods like fruits and vegetables.

Tips for adding more fiber to your diet

  • Choose whole grain bread and pasta
    • Ezekial bread
    • zucchini pasta (spiralized)
    • Brown rice in place of white rice
    • Choose oat and whole grain cereals
    • Eat a salad daily, or opt for a green smoothie.

Carbs play a key role in overall health.  Your body needs whole carbs daily and will not operate at the fullest potential when you eliminate carbs from your daily diet. For a great list of carb rich foods see this post from healthyeater.com.