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First Love,Teens and Boys

Can I just tell you how much I love this young woman.  She is just the bomb!!!


LOVE IT!!!!!

I have a 15-year-old freshman who is entering  a world of “new”.  If you have read some of my posts from past years or follow on Facebook or Instagram, you know that I love morning drop of time with my older girls.  It is when we have some of our most candid unguarded conversations.

Lately, we have had several conversations about hook-ups and dating. Today I shared with them a time in my life that I hold dear to this day.  It was during my senior year; I was active in my youth choir, church and single.

I remember attending church one Sunday and the sermon being about Christ as our first love.  The pastor spoke directly to the young people and said, “this is the time for you to honor Christ as your would a spouse.  Spend time with him, get to know him in a personal and intimate way.  When the time for marriage comes you will know how to love because your first love taught you.”

Oh, how that message spoke to me.  After that message, I would get my favorite praise and worship music, light some candles and just be, in the presence of my first love.  It was wonderful, and I was full.  There was no need or desire to have a boyfriend.  I was captivated by the lover of my soul.

I shared this with my 15 and 12-year-old today and told them it was in those years that the Lord taught me how to love their dad.  I also told them my story because I want them to understand the having a boyfriend just to be able to say you have a boyfriend is pointless.  Unless they feel they are ready to be married (which they both adamantly said they were not :)) then there is no need for a boyfriend.  As a youth, a had a good share of guy friends but that is what it was– friends.

Looking back on that story is so sweet and refreshing.

The other thing I am grateful for is a role model like Jamie Grace.  Her music is beautiful, and it speaks to my heart but also the hearts of my girls.  Her love of Christ is beautiful and contagious.


What IF we LIVE Intentionally?

Recently I was talking to my 15-year-old daughter about how much she has experienced and grown in her first semester as a high-school freshman. This weekend she performed with her marching band on the football field of Arizona State University and they placed second. I told her as an ASU alumni, I had never been to the stadium let alone on the field. It was an opportunity to encourage my once shy daughter. A chance to acknowledge her choice to step out of her comfort zone and the growth she had attained.

As a young girl, I was constantly bombarded by fear.

Fear kept me from LIVING life.  Experiencing what life had to offer me at that time.

A few years ago I had a near death experience ( a story for another day) that caused me to LIVE my life differently.

I want to LIVE courageously and intentionally for God.

What if…

  • We live intentionally?
  • We were secure in our own unique personality?
  • We were content to serve and fulfill our God-given purpose and calling.

Would we…

  • No longer feel the burn of envy for someone else’s achievements?
  • Change the lives of those we are blessed to encounter?
  • Finally, be free to LIVE fully present, empowered to walk out all we are created for?

Each of us is created for a uniquely designed purpose.
The desire that burns within us in not coincidence.
It is a call to step out and make our DREAM a REALITY.


In walks fear.

  • What will others think if I truly go all out?
  • Am I being selfish if I passionately nurture and grow the gifts and talents within me?
  • Can I use the experiences from my past, my accomplishments and failures, to help me learn how to live more intentionally today?
  • How do I know this burning desire is actually Gods’ voice.

When I contemplate these questions and thoughts, my desire it to live intentionally every day.  I am reminded of

2 Thessalonians 1:11 MSG

We pray for you all the time. Pray that our God will make you fit for what he’s called you to be, pray that he’ll fill your good ideas and acts of faith with his own energy so that it all amounts to something.


This is my prayer for you and I. That all we do would be blessed and glorify our Creator. That we will be BOLD in walking out the plan for our lives.

What is the dream that is kindling within your heart. What is holding you back from stepping out and fulfilling your dream, your purpose?

Flattering Curves Ahead

Morning conversation with my 13-year-old.

Flattering curves ahead. 

There are 3-4 basic body types that find their uniqueness in each girl/woman. When we spend our time wishing, we were a different body type we zap out the ability to shine in our individuality and personal God given beauty.

Pick out 4-6 things that you LOVE about your body. Focus on these things. Thank God for them. What are the few things you do not like so much about your body? What could you do to improve those things? Pray and ask God to help you see yourself the way He sees you.

Thank God for creating you just the way you are…uniquely beautiful. There is NOONE like you. Embrace that and SHINE.