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My mind is constantly whirling, meditating on the Word and trying to apply it to my life. This is were those meditations meet paper.

People Pleaser-The Battle Is Real

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about living intentionally.  In that post, I talked about my what, how and why of intentional living.

For me, the reason, purpose, and drive for intentional living is to glorify God by embracing the unique person He created me to be.

It has taken 38 years for me to come to this place and it is still a daily choice.


I am a people pleaser and try to make everyone happy.

But I can only have one master.

God or man.

I choose God, and so this is the journey I take, one step at a time.

I believe our utmost purpose is to honor God with the life we are given.

It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for.

Ephesians 1:11, MSG

Resting in this verse, I know that I can grow authentically while allowing God to guide to live each day unapologetically me.  Living in this truth empowers me to live each new day fully glorifying the creator of the universe. Living each day this way has allowed me to:

1. Develop Confidence and Self-Respect

I acknowledge that I own the decisions I have made in the past but also own the choices I make today and going forward. I can now enter each new day knowing that with God I can accomplish things I never thought possible. I am confident that my future holds good things for me and I when I look in the mirror, I know I am aiming to become the woman God intended for me to be.

2.  Focus and Direction

Instead of fighting my energizer bunny way of life, I have found a way to use my “busy body” tendencies to my benefit and schedule my day in ways that harness energy and make my day more productive.

3.  Concentrate on God’s Plans for Me and Not Everyone Else’s

The key for me is to start my day in quiet meditation and prayer to line my day up with the will of Christ.  This doesn’t happen every day, but the days that it doesn’t, I pay the price.  I have found that when I make time to spend at the feet of Christ, the time is redeemed and multiplied.

Early in life I found that I was more accepted when I morphed into the person others wanted me to be.  In high school, I would proudly proclaim that I was a chameleon and could blend into any crowd or situation.

But when you put salt in your mouth, does it taste like pepper or cinnamon.

Nope, it tastes like salt.

I had been deceived into thinking the goal was to be accepted and blend in.

As I grew in the Word I realized that our purpose wasn’t to blend in but to stand out.  To enhance the life that happens around us with the unique gifts God has placed within us.

It can be a struggle for me to not shrink back into my chameleon ways and just be who people want me to be.

Today, I choose to be the slightly nerdy, weird and quiet, energetic woman God created me to be.  I want to see what she can do.

Whom she can be.

I want to see how he uses this hot mess of a person to season the world around me.

What about you?

What weighs more heavily in your life?  The opinion of others or the opinion of the one who created you?

People who exercise their embryoninc freedom day after day will, little by little, expand that freedom.  People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally “being lived.”  They are acting out the scripts written by parents, associates, and society.

-Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


Until next time…

Be blessed 🙂

I believe our utmost purpose is to honor God with the life we are given. It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Ephesians 1:11, MSG #Purpose #Live Click To Tweet


Rejoice in the Lord ALWAYS!!!


So a couple of days ago I had a chance to put “some feet” on my memory verse.

It started out with me hinting to Rich that I was a tired. I was hoping I would get a pass to go to bed early, and he would put the girls to bed. Instead five minutes later he tells me, “now that you said you were tired I am tired” and proceeded to take a nap.
A bit frustrated I continue to put the girls to bed, looking forward to a much-needed soak in the tub.
Once the girls were all warm and cozy in their beds, I made a beeline for my sanctuary…my bathroom. I turned the hot water on full bore and proceeded to get my bubbles and music for and evening of relaxation and refreshment. Next thing I know I turn around and my tub is full of disgusting brown water. At this point, I do not even want to know.
So I proceed to my computer and connect my iPhone. I had recently gone to the library and checked out a CD Bible study by Linda Dillow called “Calm My Anxious Heart.” No better time than the present to start this timely study. So as my iPhone is syncing, I go to the kitchen to brew a cup of chamomile tea. Upon returning to my phone, I notice I have four apps on my phone. If you are not familiar with the iPhone, you can download all sorts of an application called “apps.” I had at least 50 ranging from password keeper, goals, to-dos, and years worth of recipes I had created. So my heart immediately plummeted when I saw all my apps reduced to four. I unhooked my phone and confirmed my fears…I had lost everything!!!!! Now the good thing is that my iTunes account had the apps themselves saved on my account. The bad thing is that all the data I had saved was lost.
All that was left for me to do was go to bed and pout. As I lay in bed and just chewed on my frustration and disappointment in the evening, I was reminded of the first verse in my memory verse this week.
“Rejoice in the Lord always, again I say rejoice.”

Although I did not feel like praising God, I began to sing his praises. Before I knew It I had totally forgotten about my minuscule irritants and began praying and interceding for Haiti and all the other hurting people in our world.

I learned that night that when we offer up a sacrifice of praise, we take the focus off ourselves and on our Lord and His purposes.

Nothing could be greater.

Be Blessed

This thing called love…

This Thing Called Love

I think we have been sold a bag of goods…lies. Everywhere we turn we are
told love is this warm, fuzzy pleasant feeling. It makes you smile
and sing all day. We are made to believe love is something you can
fall into and just as easily fall out of. Love makes you gaze into one
another’s eye and finish each other’s sentences with a giggle.

Or how about the loving mom who after working a 10 hour day comes home
and effortlessly serves her husband and children with ease and grace.

In my short time here on this earth I find this sooooo far from reality.

There are a few things I have learned to be right about this thing called

1. Love is a choice

As a mom in this hurried life, it is difficult to love in many of the
situations I find myself in daily.
When I am tired and suffering in some way, when I am feeling heavy and
blah, it is difficult for me to extend love to those around me. This
is exactly when I have realized I need to make the choice to follow
thru on my commitment to love.

The kind of love Christ modeled for us was deliberate…a conscious choiceheart-1050338_1920
. Not so much a “feeling” but a conscious mental decision. The
most important part is the God we serve doesn’t ask is to do this on
our own, he comes along side us and waits for us to call on him for help.
With Christs love operating within us & coming alongside to assist us
we can consciously give love when we don’t “feel” like it, to serve when
we want to be served.

I am reminded of the last supper when Jesus is asked if He knew who
would betray him. In spite of Jesus knowing that Judas would betray
him, he still choose to serve Judas that night and wash his feet.

I am reminded of the last supper when Jesus is asked if He knew who would betray him. In spite of Jesus knowing that Judas would betray him, he still choose to serve Judas that night and wash his feet. Click To Tweet

We must call on the God within us to help us love in all the ways He
has called us to.

We must call on the God within us to help us love in all the ways He has called us to. Click To Tweet

Christ gave, served and died on the cross – ACTS of love – not fueled
by emotions and good feelings- but the concious choice to fulfil the
will of God.


Be blessed

Chanelle 🙂

Careful what you ask for…

So after completing my Kay Aurthur Bible study I have been more attuned to not only praying but stopping to listen to Gods response.

Well, today was the first day I actually stopped and went over each of the things I have before the Lord and spent so time being totally silent.

I came away with something I did not expect…

A To-Do list… a long one.

My time being silent before the Lord has reminded me that God is not my genie in a bottle. All I have to do is pray and then…poof.

I have to do my part and then release everything else to Him.

The other nice thing is I went into my 1uiet

time with Chanelle’s To-Do list, I walked away with His.

Be blessed