A few weeks ago I wrote a post about living intentionally.  In that post, I talked about my what, how and why of .

For me, the reason, purpose, and drive for intentional living is to glorify God by embracing the unique person He created me to be.

It has taken 38 years for me to come to this place and it is still a daily choice.


I am a people pleaser and try to make everyone happy.

But I can only have one master.

God or man.

I choose God, and so this is the journey I take, one step at a time.

I believe our utmost purpose is to honor God with the life we are given.

It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for.

Ephesians 1:11, MSG

Resting in this verse, I know that I can grow authentically while allowing God to guide to live each day unapologetically me.  Living in this truth empowers me to live each new day fully glorifying the creator of the universe. Living each day this way has allowed me to:

1. Develop Confidence and Self-Respect

I acknowledge that I own the decisions I have made in the past but also own the choices I make today and going forward. I can now enter each new day knowing that with God I can accomplish things I never thought possible. I am confident that my future holds good things for me and I when I look in the mirror, I know I am aiming to become the woman God intended for me to be.

2.  Focus and Direction

Instead of fighting my energizer bunny way of life, I have found a way to use my “busy body” tendencies to my benefit and schedule my day in ways that harness energy and make my day more productive.

3.  Concentrate on God’s Plans for Me and Not Everyone Else’s

The key for me is to start my day in quiet meditation and prayer to line my day up with the will of Christ.  This doesn’t happen every day, but the days that it doesn’t, I pay the price.  I have found that when I make time to spend at the feet of Christ, the time is redeemed and multiplied.

Early in life I found that I was more accepted when I morphed into the person others wanted me to be.  In high school, I would proudly proclaim that I was a chameleon and could blend into any crowd or situation.

But when you put in your mouth, does it taste like pepper or cinnamon.

Nope, it tastes like salt.

I had been deceived into thinking the goal was to be accepted and blend in.

As I grew in the Word I realized that our purpose wasn’t to blend in but to stand out.  To enhance the life that happens around us with the unique gifts God has placed within us.

It can be a struggle for me to not shrink back into my chameleon ways and just be who people want me to be.

Today, I choose to be the slightly nerdy, weird and quiet, energetic woman God created me to be.  I want to see what she can do.

Whom she can be.

I want to see how he uses this hot mess of a person to season the world around me.

What about you?

What weighs more heavily in your life?  The opinion of others or the opinion of the one who created you?

People who exercise their embryoninc freedom day after day will, little by little, expand that freedom.  People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally “being lived.”  They are acting out the scripts written by parents, associates, and society.

-Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


Until next time…

Be blessed 🙂

I believe our utmost purpose is to honor God with the life we are given. It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Ephesians 1:11, MSG #Purpose #Live Click To Tweet


35 comments on “People Pleaser-The Battle Is Real”

    • Liz, thanks for stopping by to comment. It’s not necessarily about celebrating the uniqueness in myself but encouraging others to embrace the unique person they were created to be. 🙂

  1. I love that God is your center. It is through him that I have strength and it is through him that I learned how to love myself.

  2. I LOVE this! I feel like I have been struggling with this. I want to do what God wants and to be who God wants me to be, but it would be SO much easier if I knew something I feel was actually coming from God.
    And I feel like this is HUGE on my blog. I felt like I knew what direction I wanted to go, but now, I am not so sure.

    • I think it begins with choosing to pause and listen. God will never force his intentions upon you. To hear from him you have to allow yourself to be quiet before him. Take the time to seek his will for you and your blog. He is waiting for you to invite him along. Thanks for commenting Mim. Be blessed.

  3. I am a people pleaser too, within reason. My reason has gotten a lot smaller over the years and now I don’t waste time/effort on being overly nice to people who will never appreciate it.

    • Love it. I have come a long way since high school. However there are still times I find myself not being 100 percent of who I am just to make others more comfortable. I am getting there though. 🙂

  4. This is a great post and I have to admit I have always been somewhat of a people pleaser. These are indeed great verses and great was to care for you. I really do believe we need to take care of our self first before we can care for anyone else.

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