Can I just tell you how much I love this young woman.  She is just the bomb!!!


LOVE IT!!!!!

I have a 15-year-old freshman who is entering  a world of “new”.  If you have read some of my posts from past years or follow on Facebook or Instagram, you know that I love morning drop of time with my older girls.  It is when we have some of our most candid unguarded conversations.

Lately, we have had several conversations about hook-ups and dating. Today I shared with them a time in my life that I hold dear to this day.  It was during my senior year; I was active in my youth choir, church and single.

I remember attending church one Sunday and the sermon being about Christ as our .  The pastor spoke directly to the young people and said, “this is the time for you to honor Christ as your would a spouse.  Spend time with him, get to know him in a personal and intimate way.  When the time for marriage comes you will know how to love because your first love taught you.”

Oh, how that message spoke to me.  After that message, I would get my favorite praise and worship music, light some candles and just be, in the presence of my first love.  It was wonderful, and I was full.  There was no need or desire to have a .  I was captivated by the lover of my soul.

I shared this with my 15 and 12-year-old today and told them it was in those years that the Lord taught me how to love their dad.  I also told them my story because I want them to understand the having a boyfriend just to be able to say you have a boyfriend is pointless.  Unless they feel they are ready to be married (which they both adamantly said they were not :)) then there is no need for a boyfriend.  As a youth, a had a good share of guy friends but that is what it was– friends.

Looking back on that story is so sweet and refreshing.

The other thing I am grateful for is a role model like Jamie Grace.  Her music is beautiful, and it speaks to my heart but also the hearts of my girls.  Her love of Christ is beautiful and contagious.


58 comments on “First Love,Teens and Boys”

    • Thank you, Nora. If you have never heard Jamie Grace, she is a phenomenal young woman with music I love hearing all seven of my kids singing. So uplifting and empowering. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. 🙂 Tell your 16-year-old happy birthday. 🙂

    • Jennifer, I will trust that God’s Word will never return void. I will continue to cover them in prayer ane encourage open communication. Thanks so much for commenting. I truly appreciate it. 🙂

    • Tara, I can only imagine when the triplets are older. I can just say that I find peace when I invite Christ into any situation, this one included. I have told my girls that boyfriends are not off the table, but I do want them to think about the “why” they want a boyfriend and what purpose he would serve. I am sure I made my parents worry many times, but I also know what kept me out of a lot of troubles was the constant prayers my mom said on my behalf. God was listening, even when I wasn’t. 🙂

  1. Great post! Its so important to love the Lord, put your focus on Him, and He will bring you the right one at the right time! What great advice! My daughter loves Jamie Grace, she really is a great role model!
    God is GREAT!

    • Thank you, Heather. That is very true. The bible says the enemy roams like a lion and I think this is an area that he gets many to . I want to have open communication with my girls so they know no one is perfect but God always provides a way for us to stand for what we believe. 🙂 Thank you for stopping by.

  2. Great post! I wish I had learned this as a teenager! But, I am very thankful for God’s grace and His love! And yes, I LOVE Jamie Grace’s songs! My 3 year old daughter and I sing along very loudly to beautiful day!

    • I too am thankful for God’s grace, mercy and love. I so glad that I am able to use my wins and losses to help my girls be and do better. Thanks for commenting Mim. 🙂

  3. Waiting for love is definitely the best way to get love. Love is something that you should learn to give yourself first before you can learn how to give it to others.

    • Love it. I have got to make it through four girls and then I get to flip the switch and deal with triplet boys. God is good. That’s all I’m gonna say on that one. 😉

    • Totally agree Lauren, which I why I want to start the dialog know. A game plan does not always work, but it works better than no plan at all. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I appreciate it. 🙂

  4. I didn’t start seriously dating until college and everyone said I would regret it but it turned out really well for me and I think it helped me know who I was before I jumped into a relationship with someone else. I definitely avoided a lot of drama that way as well 🙂
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    • Unfortunately, many girls date just because everyone else is and end up with baggage that goes with them for the rest of their lives. I want my girls to be intentional about who the choose to spend their time with. I like to have the dialog going. Thanks for commenting Heidi, I appreciate it. 🙂

    • Thanks, Claudette, I prefer to guide and enable my children to learn from my mistakes so they can do and be better than I. But we all have our own way to parent. Thanks for visiting and commenting.

    • Thank you, Rika. I opened the dialog with a book called “Secret Keeper Girl”. It is a book that encourages girls to love themselves and embrace their unique beauty. It was a wonderful experience, the book is broken into 8 dates that mom and daughter go on and discuss “tween” things. I have had the pleasure of using the book with three of my daughters. My seven-year-old is a couple of years away from it. Thanks for stopping by to visit and comment. 🙂

  5. I was often pressurized into dating and had unwise relationships growing up. When I got to uni I had enough and wanted to be single and just happy in myself. Some are confused as to how I could be alone but I want someone who loves me for who I am and not as a quick fling or based on lust.

    • Girl, you amaze me. They say a diamond is formed in darkness. Well, you certainly prove that state as truth. I pray God blesses you and brings you the love you always deserved and are so worthy of. 🙂

    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting Autumn. It has been a slow journey. It is difficult to have transparent conversations with your “baby”. Teenagers can sniff out fake like a snake hunting for a rat. Taking it one day at a time. 🙂

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